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Permalink Reply by Jilly on January 24, 2010 at 1:12am

I think I know what you are looking for FATE. I read this not to long ago.
Seeking Spirit FIRST. Making this the FIRST Priority in our lives. The challenge of the spiritual laws is that they can sound as though they are machines. The law themselves are living dynamics of life that are ATTUNED to each individual’s life. They integrate both the conscious and the subconscious. This makes a tremendous difference when we speak of seeking “first,” because outer rules of what first means are far less valid than understanding the “attitude of FIRST.”
For instance, it’s easy to think of GOD/Source/Universe FIRST in the morning or immediately offer up a prayer or thought of Source when you have a question or challenge. In this case “Forgiveness.” This can be very helpful, yet misleading in the understanding of how the law really works. “FIRST” is less about “When,” than it is about “HOW.” …FIRST for one person may be when he or she is deeply immersed in a problem and remembers that there is a higher knowledge and power, then with joy turns the focus to that LOVE. For another person it may start far before the CHALLENGE or need arises, with appreciation of the beauty of the green of the leaves on the trees as the person drives to work.
FIRST is the description of the sincerity of a relationship, rather than time, place or technique. First describes the depth of Heart feeling about that spirit within rather than a form or routine. Does this make sense? Good to see you. Love J

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Permalink Reply by Renae on January 24, 2010 at 12:36pm

Meaning its an individual process? I am not sure I get this as it pertains to forgiveness?

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Permalink Reply by Jilly on January 24, 2010 at 2:16pm

Yes Fate, it is individual. I guess I was doing some preventive medicine here. But to answer your question about how this pertains to forgiveness. Because we have not learned to know ourselves as the powerful spiritual beings we truly are, we find ourselves hurt by others. Our response to this hurt is to develop the perception of ourselves as powerless and subject to hurt by others. To protect ourselves against the perceived power of others, we associate our hurt with them and hold resentment against them. The holding of the resentment is so contrary to our true spiritual nature that it becomes a very destructive force within us. Part of the reason for this is that all resentment includes resentment of oneself. While we may direct our resentment toward another, our own perceived powerlessness is a large part of what we actually resent. The Law brings reflections of this resentment into manifestation in our lives. We keep facing the problem created by our resentment. The healing of that resentment , whether at the mental or physical level or expression, is through the process of forgiveness. When that forgiveness takes place, the manifestations of the resentment within our body are free to be healed, and we experience the return of our personal power. Forgiveness brings us freedom from those perceptions that enslave and limit us. Free of these limiting perceptions, we can be who we really are.
I guess FATE that when you asked your original question I focused on the PROCESS instead of a personal STORY. We just need to remember that FORGIVENESS is not a neutral state of indifference. It is a positive, powerful state of LOVE. (There is that LOVE THANG AGAIN). We call on the Source to help us LOVE and to process forgiveness. I know this is a bit long winded. Let me leave you with this. Many peeps are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. The tragedy of UNFORGIVENESS is that individuals continue to inflict hurt upon themselves when the event could be over.
Thanks for this opportunity FATE...I feel engaged again. Love J

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Permalink Reply by Renae on January 24, 2010 at 3:24pm

Ok...Thank you... I have a hard time "feeling" forgiveness with one particular resentment.. I know I MUST for myself... and yes I need to forgive myself for this as well...I sometimes feel I am not quite capable of it in this instance... There is a BIG lesson for in this... I am NOT to the other side..but I can ask source for help...THANK YOU Jilly

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Permalink Reply by Jilly on January 24, 2010 at 3:46pm

Oh FATE, you truly are capable. You keep seeking the answer and that is wonderful. This is such powerful stuff and that power is inside us and we are tapping into it. You just jumped to the other side, I saw you make the leap. I'm so excited for you. One day I just sat back and treated this as a de-cluttering session.(Similar to de-cluttering your home, treating yourself as your home) Forgiveness is like de-cluttering our soul. When we harbor that un-forgiveness it is like a blockage of sorts. When the blockage is gone, wow what a great feeling. Love Ya, J

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Permalink Reply by Taylor Kingrea on January 25, 2010 at 2:59am

Thank you Fate and Jilly for posting this subject matter. I'll read it until I let it all go.

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Permalink Reply by Taylor Kingrea on January 25, 2010 at 3:03am

Createfate--I also can totally relate to what you're saying about not feeling capable in THIS instance.

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Permalink Reply by Pamela Tidd on February 4, 2010 at 10:36pm

I completely understand that roadblock of unforgiveness. I'm there too but pushing a little bit forward everyday. Since seperating 2 years ago, I had built up such a wall of hatred & anger towards my exhusband that it was affecting everything in my life. I strived everyday to find that forgiveness so that I could be free of that darkness. I had gone for counselling with a psychologist as well as my minister in hopes of finding forgiveness or learning how to get there but it eluded me. Because we have a child together & still need to communicate meant that I couldn't just push everything aside & ignore it. I have not treated him kindly for the majority of these past two years but you know what? After time & a lot of soul searching, reading & self awareness, I realize that my anger & hatred were my shield against allowing him to hurt me any further. I'm to the point now though that I know he can't. I'm healed enough to begin letting down that shield although it's still in my hand. lol
I forgive myself for things that I have said to him through all of this & one thing I read a year or so ago has really helped me to get to this point of self forgiveness & it is helping me a bit everyday to get to where I can fully forgive him...
I cannot for the life of me, remember which book I read this in but it went something like this: Everyone does the best that he/she can in a situation based on the skills & tools they possess at that time & based on their perception of that situation.
This was an eye opener for me... I did not possess the poper skills or tools needed to deal with the blow of him leaving & being left as a single parent. But I have worked at getting them... & now, when I receive a nasty email or whatever from him, I really, truly try to understand what his true meaning is behind it because I know his anger & hostility is his shield against the hurtful things I've said to him in the past.
Rather than instantly react now with my own anger or hatred, I recognize it for what it is, I breathe through it & sometimes meditate on it before responding to him.
I want to be able to fully forgive him for everything & am almost to this point but I do not want him in my life other than as a father to our child as I do not trust him at all. This is the stage that we struggle with because he wants our relationship to be on a friendly basis & unfortunately, I cannot do that.

Keep reading, keep praying & keep meditating with the focus being on getting to forgiveness.. it will come.. I have faith in that.

(((HUGS)))

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Permalink Reply by Renae on February 9, 2010 at 7:25pm

Wow..you have been through alot...and STILL working on forgiveness...that is great!!! This is how your going to feel better for YOU and YOUR KIDS!!! I totally understand that this is DEEP forgiveness and a big life lesson...My roadblocks of forgiveness have to do with a relationship too... WE WILL WORK THROUGH IT...

Thanks for the great response Pameila

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