WHAT BELIEF BREAK THROUGHS HAVE YOU HAD?
I have been taking mental notes for sometime now regarding my belief break throughs. Some major and some not so major. Some personal and some about what I see in others around me.
Then we also have those comparisons. Those beliefs we have been carrying around that we also see in others. I like those, because they are so visible. Its so easy to see others standing in their beliefs, than to see ourself standing in ours.
One of the major belief break throughs that I had several years ago was regarding self-worth. We all struggle with this don't we. Its like a wave that goes up and down. It has its highs and lows when you dont face it head on. I dont have these highs and lows anymore since this break through.
The old lingering belief that hung on for so long was "What others thought about me""how they judged me". All this thinking they were doing, was forming who I was. I would ask myself many times "what are they thinking"? In that same circle of thought I would work hard within myself that others would only think good of me, they would think highly of me, the list goes on. It mattered to me, if they were thinking bad thoughts. I came to realized I could effect what others were thinking of me. After all I was a mirror of them. So in all this, one would ASK, WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF? This is the only thing you have control over. What you think about yourself, your selfworth, etc is in your control and no one elses. So if you think you are IMPORTANT...guess what...YOU ARE. This is all that matters.
So in this, what ever you think about yourself, is what others see in you also. So be IT.
Be IMPORTANT.
Be Worthy.
Be the CEO.
Be the Rock STAR.
Be the Actor.
Be the Artist
Be a Success.
What ever IT is.
REMEMBER you can NEVER NOT BE.
What do you think? Name the BE in you !
Then we also have those comparisons. Those beliefs we have been carrying around that we also see in others. I like those, because they are so visible. Its so easy to see others standing in their beliefs, than to see ourself standing in ours.
One of the major belief break throughs that I had several years ago was regarding self-worth. We all struggle with this don't we. Its like a wave that goes up and down. It has its highs and lows when you dont face it head on. I dont have these highs and lows anymore since this break through.
The old lingering belief that hung on for so long was "What others thought about me""how they judged me". All this thinking they were doing, was forming who I was. I would ask myself many times "what are they thinking"? In that same circle of thought I would work hard within myself that others would only think good of me, they would think highly of me, the list goes on. It mattered to me, if they were thinking bad thoughts. I came to realized I could effect what others were thinking of me. After all I was a mirror of them. So in all this, one would ASK, WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF? This is the only thing you have control over. What you think about yourself, your selfworth, etc is in your control and no one elses. So if you think you are IMPORTANT...guess what...YOU ARE. This is all that matters.
So in this, what ever you think about yourself, is what others see in you also. So be IT.
Be IMPORTANT.
Be Worthy.
Be the CEO.
Be the Rock STAR.
Be the Actor.
Be the Artist
Be a Success.
What ever IT is.
REMEMBER you can NEVER NOT BE.
What do you think? Name the BE in you !
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by Jenna Costo on -
HI Jilly.. I really like this blog. Here's my list :)
I am powerful.
I am generous.
I am extremely smart.
I am very knowledgable.
I am always in a state of having accomplished everything that I needed to do.
I am a super powerful hot guy magnet.
I am a wealth magnet.
I am in the process of getting the perfect job with the perfect salary,
I am responsible.
I am a super powerful sucess magnet.
I am a very powerful money magnet.
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on -
Hi Jenna, I added a comment at the bottom and would love to hear your oppinion. The comment starts:Hello all, Aeroney for your ref. Thanks Jilly
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Permalink Reply by Aeroney on -
Hi Jilly
Great discussion. I have had to break through alot of limiting beliefs from the past, its a great journey. I was always worried about what others thought about me, how I came across, what I wore, even down to the fact that I thought that I needed a degree in something to be someone..
Now, this is who I am
I am accepting of myself
I stay out of other peoples heads, what they think is none of my business
I am the possibility of infinate experiences
Its about the message not the messenger
I am a student and a teacher
I am living my balance and my purpose with passion
These are breakthroughs from feeling like I was being judged, the fact that I was who I was but could be whoeveer I wanted to be. The last has helped me to start to break through the fear factor of public speaking.
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on
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Hi Aeroney, I added to this discussion below. I would be interested in your response. Jilly
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on
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Hello all, Aeroney said something in her comment that stood out that I would like to address. She talked of feeling like she was being Judged before here break through. This would lead us to believe that we are judging others by virtue that we believe that someone is judging us. It might be true that someone is judging us, but the other side of the coin might say otherwise and that persone might not be thinking judgement at all. So where does this judgement come from if that person is not judging us as we thought, however we feel it anyway?
My conclusion can only be that the Judgement is coming from within us. So the next time you feel as thought someone is judging you....think again. This is your own thinking.
Remember that judging seperates one from the Universe/source/GOD and that it breaks the connection.
So my next question is: If you asume that someone is judging you...is this an unconscious feble attempt to try and seperate that person from the Universe/source/God? Is this your way of being in Control? What does this say about you?
What are you thoughts on this?...JILLY
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Permalink Reply by Jenna Costo on
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Hi Jilly...Its great that you brought this up. Actually I agree that some people do judge. And there are two separate things to note here. 1) All of us here (or most of us) after reading self improvement stuff have decided to not judge. But innately perhaps we would certainly form opinions. SO since we know a lot now, and we decided to not judge, therefore we dont judge. 2) the other kind is people who dont know any of this, and are not interested. Now some of them could be open minded, others not wanting to learn. But when someone throws a glance at you, and you think they are judging you or that they dont think much of you or they feel inferior to you...you're absolutely right. I think its very easy to sense what another is thinking, pretty much most of the time. I couldnt do this before.. but now I am confident..i can read minds very well. So, in my opinion...yes they are judging you and thinking perhaps exactly what you think they were thinking.. To tell you the truth, "people" haven''t changed. Few years back I was so sensitive to these things. And now..it doesnt even matter. For example..some guy looked at me a little weird today in the elevator...I know this would have bothered me few years back..and today? I didnt even care...My smile didnt fade and mentally I kept beating the drum of " I am powerful" "I am extremely smart" " I am extremely rich"...just as I was before he got on the elevator...without missing a beat. This mental affirmation exercise is what I do every day all the time when Im out and about..LOL... So now in retrospect the only role he played today in doing what he did, was I think so I had a story to share with you to inspire you... I do whatever I want..its my life...if i feel like wearing black nail polish I will...If I feel like speaking my mind I will...Its called freedom of expression..and until and unless someone verbally objects (which of course wont happen)...I dont even spend a nanosecond on that....I'm too busy thinking about my new red porsche that is on its way....HAha....
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Permalink Reply by Aleksandra on -
Let me quote:' What you think of me is your problem, not mine' ...........hehehe;)
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Permalink Reply by Aeroney on
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Hi everyone, in reply to your post Jilly :)
I want to say in reply to your thought Jilly, I was the most judgemental person I knew. I was judge jury and excercutioner. I had a very low self-esteem and used my judgements to make me feel good about myself. Hey, I am nothing if not honest about myself.
However, as per Jennas response, when we know better we do better. I use to feel like I had to control my world and everyone in it. Now, again like Jenna, I choose to not care about anyone having a possible judgement about me. I am who I am and I accept me for me, therefore, on the other side of the coin, I accept others for who they are. The opposite of Judgement is acceptance. I cant control the world, lol, I am so blessed to be part of it, but I control me, my thoughts, my opinions, my actions and reactions, I am fully responsible for who I am and what I do.
Becoming more conscious means taking responsibility for prior actions, and if by being judgemental at some point and time meant that I was trying to make a feble attempt to try and seperate others from the universe, so be it, I take full responsibility for that. So what does that say about me? Nothing I havent already said about myself to myself anyway lol.
As I said in my previous post, these are things that I have broken through and things that no longer rule my life. My hopes are to learn from such experiences and to move myself forward into the life that I am passionate about. Into a life of balance in my emotional, physical and spiritual states and to ensure that I am always fully aware and fully accountable for me. And enjoying the lappy I bought myself, :)
Heres to a great 100day challenge season of learning, luving, living and manifesting for one and for all
Cheers
Aeroney
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on
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Awesome response Aroney, however I was talking about me and my actions. I see now how interesting one can take my experience and apply it to their own life experience. Thanks for sharing.
In my past spiritual walk I was preached to and taught to believe a certain way. I was encouraged to influence others to think the way I did and was told that this was not being judgemental. I saw otherwise. This is a big part in why Im here. I love where I am now...FREE. The air smells sweet here.
Hugs Jilly
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Permalink Reply by Aeroney on
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Hi Jilly
I am realy glad we connected here. You help me discover things I may have otherwised overlooked yet they are fantastic learnings that help me to be more aware of my past mistakes and keep me on track to where I am heading. Your reflections about yourself resonate with me so much so that I cant help but become more passionate about what I am doing with my life now and who I am becoming.
For that I am truely grateful.
Beliefs take a long time to form, so the ones we have now that arnt serving us will take time to replace, however, the more aware I am of these beliefs, the more concious I become of when I am not living within my values.
I value your insights for they are like looking in a mirror for me sometimes :) Yes, luv Freedom, freedom to be, to choice, or not to do anything if we so wish, hehehe.
I look forward to more discussions with you and all the wonderfuly insightful co-creators here and the journeys we are all on
big hugs
Aeroney
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on
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Thank you Aroney for that last response. It made me think on this a bit more. Blessings to you. JILLY
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Permalink Reply by tat on -
I also had the same belief that was also debilitating to me in that I was always worried about how others perceived me, even complete strangers and never feeling that I measured up? Isn't that crazy? You can't base your life and life decisions on what complete strangers think of you or you'll be forever paralyzed and unable to grow as a person. I also used to be quite the people pleaser and unable to say "no!" I've since learned from my mistakes. Hmm..what else...Well I know that a few years ago I used to be a completely materialistic person who was also judgmental, because I was surrounded by a lot of superficial people which contributed to that. I think also the fact that I went through my trials and tribulations that I somehow became "humbled" and a changed person in the process. Today I'm a very positive, happy, spiritual person who also expects to find those kind of people and does. I avoid all negativity in all forms because life is too short really and we only have one chance here, well in this life.
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