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Achievement #431 - Vlogging

Yesterday I tackled another thing I've been procrastinating about for my business: Video blogging. I'm not yet entirely comfortable in front of the camera, and it took a long time to get everything set up the last time I did this, so it's not my favourite thing. This time however, I had a much simpler setup, and picked a topic I was more familiar with. I got it done in record time.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 27, 2017 at 10:27am — No Comments

Achievement #430 - Video Security

Finally made it to a part of my project I've been waffling around for months: Security for my instructional videos. Of course, it ended up being a lot more complicated than I expected, but I've learned a lot, and starting to get a sense of what to look for from future video hosting. One step at a time...

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 26, 2017 at 11:10am — No Comments

Achievement #429 - Bunny Meditation

We recently adopted a bunny, just the cutest thing ever, except he loves to chew on pretty much everything. This makes my morning meditation a bit distracted, so today I called him over and started scratching between his ears. He loves this and settled down in front of me, leaving me free to connect with myself in meditation. Not only did I still get the focusing benefits, he got a lot of attention himself!

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 25, 2017 at 10:20am — No Comments

Achievement #428 - Monk Mentality

I've been reflecting on how short our attention span is lately. Everything around us is designed to hook our attention, pull us on to the next thing, the next thing. As a result, we (myself included) rarely focus deeply on any one thing. And as a result, we miss out on much of the true depth of life, that which can truly satisfy. I've begun to infuse this idea into my morning meditations, and when I'm out and about. With each part of my day, I decide in advance what I would like to focus on…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 24, 2017 at 10:16am — No Comments

Achievement #427 - Burst of productivity

I spend 3 hours a week doing analytics work for the studio website. I can be the most boring work there is sometimes, so I often delay until the last minute. Yesterday, I knocked all three hours down. One less thing to stress about for the rest of the week.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 21, 2017 at 8:50am — No Comments

Achievement #426 - Reconnecting

It's been some time since I've really listened to myself. Partly because I didn't feel I could do what my body was asking me to do. A part of me is always wanting to push forward, learn more, try more, and that's beautiful. But it's also exhausting. So this past month I've been recovering from burnout, and that means a lot of relaxation time. Now, I'm glad to finally have some energy again to get back on track with my business and other projects. Here we go!

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 20, 2017 at 9:17am — No Comments

Achievement #425 - Conquering feelings of inadequacy

Every once and a while, I have a conversation that allows me to do what I love most - hear the frustrations of another, and be invited to offer advice in return. Yesterday was one such occasion - a coworker was feeling she didn't deserve a particularly generous couple she had started teaching, because she felt out of practice with her dancing. After talking for a bit, she realized she had beliefs about worthiness, and I think I gave her a few ideas on how she might lay those beliefs to rest.…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on April 12, 2017 at 8:45am — No Comments

Achievement #424 - What feels good?

Yesterday was lovely, mainly because for one of the first times, I gave all my actions entirely over to the question, what feels good? By focusing on what felt good in my body, I was able to avoid many distractions that might have felt pleasurable for a moment, but wouldn't have felt so great in the long term. I also caught several moments where I started to choose what was right over what was good. In other words, when my ego wanted to be right in a situation instead of accepting…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 28, 2017 at 9:11am — No Comments

Achievement #423 - I am not shy

Had an awesome weekend, letting my nerdy side hang out with friends at a table-top convention. I have many fond memories, not least of which was the re-affirmation that I am not shy, at least, not by choice. I simply don't have much opportunity to be around people who are interested in the things I am interested in. For someone in an industry which requires a lot of face-to-face contact, this is an important reminder.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 27, 2017 at 12:43pm — No Comments

Achievement #422 - Successful meeting

Myself and a fellow instructor had to make a presentation at the general meeting yesterday. We'd put together a basic idea of what we would talk about, but I had several lessons before the meeting, so we couldn't refresh beforehand. Though I was nervous, the presentation went very well, and some very good questions were raised about how our programs should be presented. Which means we have to do it again in two weeks :p

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 23, 2017 at 10:13am — No Comments

Achievement #421 - An exercise in being social

I tend to enjoy my quiet time, especially on the weekends. So meeting some colleagues of my wife's for brunch, followed by seeing my family for dinner, was definitely a test of my energy. Despite that, I still managed to keep from zoning out (too much) and even learned some things about both groups I didn't learn before. The food was delicious too :)

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 20, 2017 at 10:12am — No Comments

Achievement #420 - Being there for others

Yesterday delivered a lot of opportunities for me to practice empathizing with others. First I walked in on one of my coworkers crying in the staff room because her dog is very sick and she needed to put him down. I didn't know her well, but I did my best to listen and tell her how lucky he was to have her. Then I visited a student of mine who's been hospitalized and might have brain cancer. She was trying to stay positive, but was understandably scared. Fortunately she believes in a lot of…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 14, 2017 at 8:33am — No Comments

Achievement #419 - Quietly productive

Sundays are usually rest days for me - that means very little work gets done at all. I often feel a bit uncomfortable during these days, because part of me would like to do more. So I made yesterday a 'low-impact workday', meaning I did some work on the computer, in between gaming and other things. It left me feeling the day had been relaxing, but still fulfilling. A good way to go into the new week.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 13, 2017 at 11:08am — No Comments

Achievement #418 - Unexpected challenges

Yesterday, the thing I kept being afraid would happen, happened. I went to teach chair dancing at a long-term healthcare centre, and left my speakers at home. There was some panic-y moments en route, but I used the same to select the songs with the loudest beats, and pumped the volume as high as my laptop could allow. The result? It was still a great class, and no one complained about the music.You might say the hardest part was all the stressing I did about it beforehand ;)

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 10, 2017 at 9:32am — No Comments

Achievement #417 - Never giving up

It's been a scary few months for me: Students have been leaving or getting sick faster than new ones have come in, and savings is lower than it's ever been, and tax season is coming up. And yet, never before have I been as determined as I am today. Setbacks which would have made me give up now only make me grit my teeth and try another way. The fears which would have me stay safe within my comfort zone grow a little weaker everyday. And yesterday I filmed another set of instructional videos,…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 8, 2017 at 10:13am — No Comments

Achievement #416 - On giving advice

One of my students started crying yesterday. She was upset because she was moving out of the city, away from the studio and the people she knew, to care for a relative's child for several months. Despite the panic-y voice inside that unhelpfully shouted 'quick! say something comforting!' I simply got her a tissue and listened to her a bit. When I felt it was a good time to speak, I suggested she focus on one day at a time, rather than get wrapped up in worst-case scenarios about the future.…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 7, 2017 at 7:52am — 1 Comment

Achievement #415 - Presence in Conversation

Yesterday was spend with a number of nerdy friends of mine for a rousing session of Dungeons and Dragons. There is usually a fair bit of socializing throughout the day, and as I'm relatively new to the group, it has caused me to be inauthentic at times in order to protect myself. This time I tried to apply more presence to the situation, the intention being to allow myself to listen more, think less, and allow the thoughts that naturally arose to come out. It was difficult, and I noticed…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 6, 2017 at 11:04am — No Comments

Achievement #414 - Crazy day!

I just wanted to say that yesterday I survived 6 hours of wall-to-wall dancing, plus a workout, and I still found time to get groceries and visit my friend in the hospital. And yes, I do believe I deserved that pizza and wine dinner. Thank you.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 2, 2017 at 9:52am — No Comments

Achievement #413 - Leaving it to the Universe

Another technique from Ask and it is Given I've started trying: In my daily to-do lists, I separate my tasks into two groups. The first is what I want to do, and includes all the absolute essential things I plan on finishing no matter what. The rest I put under another heading, What I'd Like The Universe To Do, and this is the less important things that I'd love to do if some time opened up. The idea is by reducing my own list, it's much less stressful to simply focus on those, and…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on March 1, 2017 at 9:36am — No Comments

Achievement #412 - Business Diplomacy, Part 2

Challenging day yesterday! First, one of my frequent couples was frustrated with each other, and there was a lot of finger-pointing going on. I managed to diffuse the situation by focusing on how they could move together as a team, instead of laying blame. Then in my group class, one woman got very distracted and started dancing her own movements! She was our only follower, so this was definitely a problem. I 'laid down the law', and pointed out that having fun was great, but not at the…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on February 28, 2017 at 10:40am — No Comments


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