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Achievement #460 - Correct bad habits

One student of mine has a bad habit that he's been struggling with for years: He moves his partner by pushing forward from his shoulders and arms, rather than moving his body. Yesterday however, we had a breakthrough. I had him dance facing his partner without contact, then instructed him to think about moving her 'with his belly'. To my amazement, he made a full pass around the floor without hunching forward! His partner was very grateful, and I'm excited to have finally found something…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 22, 2017 at 9:34am — No Comments

Achievement #459 - A friend I haven't met yet

Got an important piece of advice from my life coach yesterday: Treat every new student like a friend I haven't met yet. People tend to enjoy learning from from they genuinely like more, and they're more likely to continue with that person. I applied this (with some difficulty) to some newer students I had later - good thing I did too, because the woman was very stressed out from a long day at work and having a little fun and humour helped improve her energy. Looking forward to practicing…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 21, 2017 at 8:11am — No Comments

Achievement #458 - Catching up with my partner

The hard part about rushing to meet business deadlines is that I don't always feel as present as I want to be when I wrap up for the evening. Much as I would like to have gone dancing, or just go to bed early, I'm glad I took some time to catch up and reconnect with my wife. She has been incredibly supportive throughout this journey, and so much has been easier because of it. I made sure she knew it too :)

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 19, 2017 at 8:54am — No Comments

Achievement #457 - It's done

As of yesterday, the membership area of the site went fully live. It's been a crazy ride, learning about forums, payment schedules, site security and so much more... But I met my deadline. There's a few odds and ends of course, and there will be ongoing maintenance. Still, I've earned myself a bit of rest I intend to take advantage of VERY soon.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 16, 2017 at 9:07am — 2 Comments

Achievement #456 - Payments accepted!

I had to extensively test two plugins over several days, but finally got my site to accept it's first payment yesterday (just as a test, not from an actual customer). It's funny... I'm working harder than perhaps I ever have in my life, and yet I'm kind of enjoying myself. It gets more exciting as I see things take shape. We're nearly ready now...

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 15, 2017 at 7:44am — No Comments

Achievement #455 - Site Secured!

I don't have much time before my website goes live, but I'm steadily working towards my goal. Yesterday my single biggest accomplishment was securing the site so it can accept online payments. Thank goodness I know a bit about coding, or some of the instructions would have been very confusing...

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 14, 2017 at 8:14am — No Comments

Achievement #454 - Lots to learn

Yesterday I may have worked harder than at any time in my life. It didn't start that way, was just supposed to be setting up a paypal button on an email people could use to access certain parts of my site. Before I knew it, I was messing around with membership plugins, site security, payment integrations... I'm still trying to wade through it all, but I understand a lot more than I did yesterday. Can't wait to work the rest of it out, so I can go sleep for a million years.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 13, 2017 at 9:29am — No Comments

Achievement #453 - Catnap

It seems I've been working myself harder than I knew. Was very tired yesterday, despite having slept like a rock the night before. In the past, I wouldn't have allowed myself to rest, telling myself 'you've already had a full nights sleep, stop being so lazy!' Not listening to my body has sometimes caused me to become very depressed. So I made sure I squeezed a short nap when I could, just 20 minutes. It improved my mood considerably, and helped me get through my last two lessons. Then I…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 9, 2017 at 9:28am — No Comments

Achievement #452 - Seeing it from their perspective

Had a frustrated discussion with my wife yesterday, about communicating when something is wrong. It's worth remembering how much tougher it to see a person as someone who's finding their own way to happiness when they've made you upset. Nevertheless, I learned a few things about why she behaves the way she does, and that will help me be more patient about similar issues in the future.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 8, 2017 at 8:59am — No Comments

Achievement #451 - Sometimes you gotta push through

Yesterday was hard, and I'm not sure why. Maybe I was just tired, but my headspace was off and my focus was suffering. But there was no way I could take it easy either - I had to get my second promo email ready to go, plus I had several lessons to teach. And my video host was being REALLY flaky. It was frustrating, and I wanted to punch things a few times, but the end result was I got it all done on time, albeit in a lot more time than I hoped it would take. Sometimes, you just gotta push…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 7, 2017 at 8:55am — No Comments

Achievement #450 - Pleasure in conversation

I've noticed lately that I enjoy talking to people more, when previously I would automatically look for a way to distance myself from them. The secret lies in the Dalai Lama's book The Art of Happiness. When I meet people now, I remind myself that they are like me in the most fundamental way: they want to be happy, and they want to avoid suffering. This helps me care more about those people, so I listen and connect better with them.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 6, 2017 at 9:49am — No Comments

Achievement #449 - First promo email - sent!

It's been possibly the busiest week I've ever had, but it was worth it. After messing around for hours with video hosting sites, email automation, and half a dozen other things I've never had to learn before, I sent out my first promotional email yesterday, enclosing the link to my first instructional dance video. I can't express what a relief it is, finally taking this first major step towards my dream of an online dance business. Phew!

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 5, 2017 at 10:20am — No Comments

Achievement #448 - Getting better at keeping my cool

Had another meeting yesterday, where I had to talk about our sales approach. I was nervous, both because I don't like public speaking and I know many of the staff were resistant to some of the ideas proposed. I think what got me through was remembering that we all essentially wanted the same things, even if we had different views on it. That reminder of our common humanity helped keep me calm, so I could listen and respond better. Actually, I felt remarkably focused, more so than I've been…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on June 1, 2017 at 7:51am — No Comments

Achievement #447 - Research

I just want to say that after hours of research yesterday, I know a whole lot more about video hosting solutions than I did, and should have one of them hosting my instructional dance videos by the end of the week. And I'm feeling pretty good about that.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 31, 2017 at 9:24am — No Comments

Achievement #446 - Keeping the pace

One challenge I face teaching dance is I pause frequently to gather my thoughts. While in my earlier years I needed to do this more to make sure I hadn't missed anything, increasingly this has become a kind of paranoid double-checking. In recent days, I've become better at going with my gut and knowing I can always make a quick correction if I need to, and yesterday's class was the best yet. The result was a much more continuous experience of enjoyment from the student and a lot less fear…


Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 30, 2017 at 9:56am — No Comments

Achievement #445 - Going at my student's pace

It's easy to get impatient with my students, to want them to improve faster than they are able to. I've gradually learned that pushing them this way means putting my agenda ahead of theirs. Yesterday I was teaching one of my toughest couples, but I decided to teach a bit slower. The result was a more relaxed lesson, with more laughs throughout. After all, isn't that the point of dancing in the first place?

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 25, 2017 at 9:01am — No Comments

Achievement #444 - Planning the day

As I lay awake in bed yesterday, I visualized how I wanted the day to go, when I would get different parts of work done, and so on. It's amazing how big a difference a little preplanning can make. Some things took longer, but the beautiful part of having the plan was I knew how much time I could afford to deviate from it. Not only did I get my work done, I was far more relaxed doing it, and connected much more with the people around me. 

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 24, 2017 at 9:41am — No Comments

Achievement #443 - Last video filmed!

It's getting close now... My wife and I finished filming the last video we need to create the promo offer for my dance website yesterday. Now I just need to edit it and get the mail service setup, should be ready to go in a week or two :)

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 23, 2017 at 8:29am — No Comments

Achievement #442 - Penultimate video complete!

I've finished my second-last video for my promotional offer yesterday. One more to go, and plan to get it done by the end of next week.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 18, 2017 at 10:08am — No Comments

Achievement #441 - Teaching different levels

Yesterday I faced a unique challenge in my salsa class: a student who's danced for a long time, a student with only a little experience, and a student with no experience at all. I got around it by teaching more fundamental steps, but giving more styling tips to the more experienced dancer. Everyone seemed to learn and enjoy themselves as a result.

Added by DarknessCannotDriveOutDarkness on May 16, 2017 at 10:04am — No Comments


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