The 100 Day Reality Challenge

Day 5 Season 1 What a Day... I am glad I am home and able to calm down

Well, I didn't have a perfect day today. I know I am supposed to focus and journal on the "good" only but I really have to say that today was not good. It began with a small negative feeling that I noticed immediatley when I pulled into the parking lot at work. Then after about an hour when I finally settled into my work station I noticed so much negativity coming from the coworker right next to me. Instead of really standing against it I allowed it to envelope me and my whole attitude changed. I became very rude and unwilling to shake it off even though I recognized it for what it was. I am glad that I recognized it and was able to finally turn it around a couple of hours after getting home and I did lay down and rest and cleansed my soul with a few tears. Any suggestions out there? I am not asking anyone to relive a crappy moment in time but would like to know what you do when you feel this negativity coming all around you?

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Comment by Rachel on June 27, 2008 at 9:13pm
Hi Sandy.......I see we started the 100 day challenge six days apart. Isn't this a great website. Thank you for your welcoming me. What I do when I feel negativity, I breathe.......a technique I use is I breathe in to a count of four, hold for a count of seven, and while I exhale to a count of eight I put my tougue behind my two front teeth. I do this even while I meditate. I know it's hard when you feel these feeling. But you do have the power to turn any negativity into a positive.
Comment by Anna on June 27, 2008 at 4:35pm
I agree. Feel your feelings. Then look at what they are telling you. I usually try to do something physical, like go for a walk and look at my surroundings. Or do some serious scrubbing!
Sometimes I write letters - letters that are NOT meant to ever be mailed or sent. But when I read them later - they seem so silly and full of things that aren't important. That alone has taught me to not take my moods seriously.
Comment by Lakshmi on June 27, 2008 at 2:35pm
I used to give myself such a hard time for having negative feelings or thoughts. But now from everything I've read and listened to, I realize that even recognizing what is happening is a big step in the right direction. Just recognize that you are not that thought or feeling, that's why it feels negative!
Comment by Sandy on June 27, 2008 at 8:51am
Thank you all so much. I accept what was learned here today. I watched the Secret for the first time last night and believe I will try to watch it at least once a day for 30 days so that it can really "sink" in. God Bless you all.
Comment by Spiritualjaye on June 27, 2008 at 8:47am
I have several methods, in case the simple.... smile at them and think "bless them, they're having a bad day" and sending love to them...doesn't work ;o)

I use Ho'ponopono but i do a different sequence... sorry - forgive - love - thanks....

Balance... which is an energy reversal technique... as in what is the opposite, of what i have e.g. anger-to be calm, stress-relaxation, restriction-freedom, scarcity-abundance...
put your hand or hands on your chest / heart chakra, quiet your mind...
take some deep breaths and visualise, having the feeling you want...
take a deep breath and as you breathe in, say to yourself "I want xxxxx (insert feeling you want)"
as you let the breath out, say to yourself "Balance"...
on the next breath out say "Thank you"

Its great for resolving situations, but it also works brilliantly on deeper issues.... I do it several times a day on deeper issues i'm working on...

I also do Donnas bubble thing... but i fill it with a white light of love, any negativity sent to my bubble bounces straight back to the person sending it.. :o) If that person continues bothering me, I imagine them floating in a bubble beside me, with a cord connecting the two bubbles, i send love to them, if they don't accept it, it bounces back to me... so i get my own love back :o)

If that doesn't work I imagine their bubble shrinking, then i cut the cord so it floats away... my kids imagine various things happening to the other bubble, like turning to dust or exploding... not very spiritual but it works a treat for them!!

almost forgot Paul McKenna's techniques...
visualise a photo of the person in your mind...
imagine them in rich glowing colours...
then imagine the colours fading...
then turning to black and white....
you now have a B& W pic of them....
now imagine that pic reducing in size...
reduce it again and again
until it is the size of a postage stamp or even smaller...
as you do this, the persons effect on you diminishes... he recommends this when someone has broken your heart, but it works well on people upsetting you or negative situations...

I used a some of these a few years ago, but forgot about them until Donna reminded me to protect myself the other day....

I hope you find the solution that works for you
Blessings Jaye x
Comment by Shirah Penn on June 27, 2008 at 8:26am
Sandy, One of my favorite quotes that is in my book Gramma Shirah Says More Words of Wisdom I learned from Jack Canfield who said "No matter what you do or say to me, I am still a worthwhile person." Then another quote from I don't know who is that No One can make you upset unless you give them permission." I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt. At any rate what I am saying is that I think you are allowing other people to upset you. I really do visualize a waterfall of white light cascading around me when I am in a negative environment. I would also make a list of 100 wonderful things about me that I carry in my purse to remind me that no one else can make me feel bad. I deserve to be happy. Love and Light Gramma Shirah
Comment by DonnaOnTheBeach on June 27, 2008 at 5:31am
Some great advice here already. An additional suggestion I have is WHENEVER you manage to turn it around - even if it's 10 days later, celebrate! This year I had the holiday blues for about 3 days...6 years ago it was 3 months! (and I quite enjoyed the holiday blues because they helped me to 'bed down' the learning about what needs to change in my life. You are doing the best you can, always so cut yourself some slack!

Something other bits that might be helpful is to imagine yourself surrounded by a bubble, through which no negativity can penetrate; send love and light to people who are being negative; and pick your favourite affirmation and keep saying it over and over when you are feeling a bit low EG Life happens for me not to me; I am the creator of my life; It's all good; I love life and life loves me. Love Donna.x
Comment by Mariana Velasquez on June 27, 2008 at 2:31am
Don,t force yourself to have good days, there is too much stress on it.
With all of my love.
Comment by Mariana Velasquez on June 27, 2008 at 2:29am
I can see everybody is giving you amasing advices! I'm going to tell you what I was told once.
EVERYTHING is a mirror of your inner thoughts.
I dont want to play any game with this affirmation. The first thing that I learned to manage is the fact that I AM a human been who is here to learn. What I learned about my self is that I some times wake up and face my rutinary life from my FEARS, and some times from LOVE and that is what make the difference. In the other hand, I just don't know any single person who's fear free. When I accepted that, I also accepted that is normal and perfect to be in fear, something change in my interior because I started loving my self just the way I am. I really apologize if I'm saying things without sense for you. I maybe just took the risk of saying it..
Comment by keren Peled on June 27, 2008 at 2:25am
I think that Christine had really good points. The whole idea is to be able to shift the energy, they talked about it in the Secret. Finding those shifters is work that needs to get done ahead of time, so when the situation hits you're ready. It's like programming your mind to do the right thing at the right situation.

So when I get depressed I first allow myself to feel it. And then I ask myself why am I feeling bad and what do I need - what would make me feel a little better. It's so important to have compassion for yourself as well, life can be harsh sometimes.

My biggest challenge is controlling what I say when I'm angry. I say things that I know I'm going to regret and I still say them, and part of me is watching from the side knowing how wrong it is and that once said things cannot be taken back. I have become better over the years with controlling the anger in the first place so I don't even get to that point.

Also a lot of times it could be something we eat or drink. I know that Caffeine and sugar makes me more agitated, so I try to be really careful with that and notice my mood. I think that a lot of sensitive people can get easily effected by Caffeine and sugar.

Hope this helps. Great question.

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