Day 16 - Understanding loneliness and isolation

Hey,

Been feeling a little bit sad tonight. Probably partly because it's a Friday night and Friday nights have generally been the worst night of the week over the recent months .. Friday is always the busiest day of the week at work and the evening can be a bit of a comedown.

When I feel a bit down, I tend to be a bit anti-social and withdraw. I was thinking of one of my goals and intentions of making new friends and reaching out more .. it's something I often find difficult to do. I don't really have anyone nearby at the moment that I am close to and can contact and meet up for a cup of tea. And also I live in another part of the country to my family. And even though I do meet people, I still feel isolated.

Maybe this time of loneliness is for a reason and also a season. I was watching an EFT video specifically for sensitive people (thanks Kelly) and it was mentioned about feeling isolated but wanting connection (or something like that). Maybe us sensitive types just find it hard to find the connections we crave at times .. I sometimes wonder how a lot of people find it seemingly easy to make friends.

There must be an answer to this.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. I have Monday off so a long weekend for me :)

Peace x

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Comment by Sophie COLAS on November 19, 2012 at 7:32am: Andy,
You need to go over your fears. And you are here to do so. It will be better
You will see. ;-)

Comment by Andy B on November 17, 2012 at 5:31pm: I have lost a few friends over the last 2 to 3 years who have moved location, so I'm still at the stage of needing to make new friends to spend time with. But people are so busy and have families etc, I don't like interfering on other people's time and I don't want to end up making all the effort to keep in touch with people, that is one big issue/fear I have and it doesn't help that I live in a bit of an isolated location. There must be a reason why this all happened but not sure what yet.

Comment by Sophie COLAS on November 17, 2012 at 5:13pm: Andy,
Do you have hobbies, do you have any people with whom you may share your lunch at work.
If you do so, you may have some people with whom you may interact, and ask them to go for a bowling, take a beer...
It's so easy. You just have to open your heart and dare to go to people.
Cheer up !

Comment by Andy B on November 17, 2012 at 3:51pm: Yes that is so true. I've found that even some of the friends I've made in the last 6 years since I've lived in Leeds are not the people I particularly desire to be friends with anymore, definitely we are in between new and old. I have never to my knowledge being called a wanderer, not totally sure how that term would be defined in this instance but I have an idea.

It's gonna be interesting to see how 2013 unfolds, I think. Thanks for your insight and wisdom x

Comment by Kelly Martin on November 17, 2012 at 3:33pm: HI Andy i think many people find it easy to make friends because they belong to a certain group and belief system. As we are currently discovering who we are, what we love, following our true passions we are kinda in the between of new and old so nowhere to put ourselves in terms of social structures and groups. Mike told me ages ago I was a wanderer and being a wanderer can sometimes be lonely but as we become more at ease and begin to thrive in that aloneness we are then able to connect with others on a heart level, without fear or attachment, this is the journey I am on right now, preferring no friends over any friends that I may not relate to at all. Being sensitive to others can be a challenge but like that video, I want to learn to see this as a real blessing. At least we feel and see vividly, so while others might just think an experience is 'okay' we can think WOW! Balance... yes aiming for that. Also after school years many people have kept the friends from school, I never did, I was a drifter, and have had a coping mechanism up. In time I want new friendships but I want them to be easy and effortless where I am me and we just add to one anothers lives.. hugs and hope the lonelies don't get to you too much and you find a deeper connection with your heart so it is easier xxx

Comment by Andy B on November 17, 2012 at 3:27am: Hahaha yeah totally! :)

Comment by N on November 16, 2012 at 8:43pm: I can relate... wanting connection, but it isn't easy for me to truly connect. I watch others make friends seemingly instantly! And wonder HOW? :)