I'm feeling a bit melancholy tonight. The day after Christmas my Aunt passed away while vacationing in Florida. I have a small but close family and we normally spend every Christmas together. This year my aunt, cousin and uncle decided to spend it in Florida and due to some health issues i'm working on my husband and I decided to stay at our home (I live about 2.5 hours from all of my family).
I am NOT sad for my Aunt for I know that she is free and reconnecting with source/God on a complete level. I feel sad for us, the family that loved and enjoyed her spirit so. Her untimely death was NOT expected and It almost feels like she's on vacation and will be home soon.
Things I remember about my aunt include her great home in Troy that we spent so many Christmas (and various other holidays) celebrating. I remember her perfectly decorated Christmas tree's. I also remember the pickle on the tree and the fun tradition my uncle, aunt and cousin would play on Christmas day. Find the pickle on the tree and get a gift (how fantastic is that). I remember her being a gracious hostess. She was never mean or cross with her nieces and nephews. I mean that to, I never remember thinking "that Aunt Phillis just isn't a nice person" because the truth of the matter was she was incredibly loving and always had a hug and a smile. She remembered my birthday and always sent me birthday cards (even as an adult). Aunt Phillis also really dug telling jokes and she was good at it:) OH and she loved babies... I remember her face lighting up and her wanting to hold all of the babies in the family. You almost had to fight to get a turn when she was around, so sweet! And and random memory, I remember her hands... they were always manicured and showed such beautiful bobbles.
Aunt Phillis was very giving and was an important part of our family. She married my uncle prior to me being born (I believe they were together 40 plus years) and there has never been a moment in my life that she was not my Aunt Phillis. Aunt Phillis helped throw my wedding shower and when I married Ian she welcomed him with open arms into the family. She always seemed very happy to see Ian and I and always was interested in what was going on in our lives. The world is a better place for having such a loving soul in it. She faithfully attended church and would often comment on the sermon and what she had gotten out of it. I have no doubt in my mind she is with God and is looking down on us with love and guidance.
We will be traveling home for her funeral on New Years Eve and lay her to rest on New Years Day. It will no doubt be a difficult time for all of us. I am praying for my uncle and cousin and hope that if you read this you can send them prayers of love and strength.
The introspective aspect to this whole post has to do with the ending of a beautiful childhood with her. Even as an adult I still felt as if Aunt Phillis was the same woman I Iooked up to with child like eyes. I still have the memories of her and those will never fade. But as many often say, I just wish I could hug her one last time:)
A little bit about the late/great Aunt Phillis...
PHILLIS KAY FISHER
(March 24, 1942 - December 26, 2009)
FISHER, PHILLIS KAY (ROBERTS), age 67, passed away December 26, 2009 in Tampa, Florida. Phillis was a resident of Rochester Hills for 12 years and formerly of Troy. She was born March 24, 1942 in Lake City, Arkansas to the late Ernest "Doc" and the late Lola Roberts. Beloved wife of Edwin Fisher and loving mother of Kristen Fisher. Dear sister of Margaret Lyons(Danny), Mona Williams (Harry) and the late Janet Strauss. Aunt to 6 nieces and 1 nephew. Dearest pet owner of Ginger the Cat, Angel the dog and the late Andy the Dog. Phillis was a member of Faith Lutheran Church-Troy. Visitation Wednesday 3-8pm at Price Funeral Home, 3725 Rochester Road (between Big Beaver and Wattles Roads. In state Thursday, December 31, 2009 at 10:30am until funeral at 11am at Faith Lutheran Church, 37635 Dequindre Road (just north of 16 Mile Road, on West side) Troy. Memorials can be made to the Michigan Humane Society.