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Hello everyone. I went through a really tough day yesterday emotionally. So many fears came up and negative thoughts I was overwhelmed. I could not do any work. This is a day I am supposed to be working on my business. The fear of not having enough money was so strong. I felt so stuck in my life and unable to see a way to move forward. Usually I am very positive but I think these are things that are coming up so that I can clear them. I cried so much yesterday and probably had a lot of emotion that needed to be released. I see how it brought on a headache and I do get a lot of headaches and they are emotioanlly related. When I get stressed and overwhelmed and I push the emotions down so that I can make it through my day without losing it, that will always give me a headache. Today I still have one but am at work and have to get through this day without "freaking out".

I guess it is now time to see help from someone to work through my emotional blocks because they are preventing me from moving forward. I thought I had done this work but obviously not. These emotions that are coming up are so strong and so powerful and I really don't know what tools to use to deal with the patterns of behavior and emotions that I have.

Any suggestions??

I have tried EFT so many times and it just doesn't seem right. I have tried "The Work" by Byron Katie. I have tried the Sedona Method, etc, etc. Because I have tried to do these all by myself, maybe that is why they have not worked. I should try and find an NLP practitioner to go and see.

Some days I am full of joy and happiness and then bang - something triggers my negative belief patterns and my mind goes crazy. I am having a very hard time connecting to feelings other than despair on those days. UGH!!!

Thought I would see if anyone has been through this and what they may suggest.

Thanks so much everyone!

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Comment by Diana Marchand on July 22, 2010 at 12:29am
Thank you Claire and Patty and all the others for the wonderful support and advice. It means so much.
HOrmones, yes I have actually studied a lot about that and I am in Perimenopause so deal a lot with hormone fluctuations and mod swings.

Doing better today, one of the main things that gets me so stressed is money - not a new one. And then not being good at doing the web stuff I have to do to promote, market my business and improve my blog/site. I get so frustrated trying to do something that should only take a few minutes and for me it takes much longer. I am finding learning the internet marketing stuff such a challenge and I then avoid doing it and also avoid writing info for an e-book I need to do and a recipe book I need to do, etc.

I have great challenges organizing my thoughts and focusing. I am good at teacher, instructing, sharing info, speaking and coaching - those are my strengths - internet stuff - not so much.
But I am sure I am not the only one.
Just get overwhelmed so easily some days.

Sometimes I think everyone else can do the things I cannot and "am I ever going to figure it out??"
I guess the blocks and triggers are not being good enough, not doing enough....along that line.

Everyone here is so great and I am very glad I signed up.

I have had 2 wonderful things happen to me in relation to what I wanted to manifest so tonight I am feeling really good about that. Still did not get any of my work done today to improve my business but I met 2 great contacts today - that is something!

One day when I am making an abundance of money I can hire an assistant!!
Comment by Claire on July 22, 2010 at 12:13am
Hello, Diana
First, thank you so much for your warm comment, I really appreciate that :)
I also go through this kind of day time to time, what I usually do is first I automatically say to myself
'Here it comes' because it seems to me, that kind of moods or days happen regularly.

And as you may already know about this, usually for about 6 or 7 days before the period starts, because of the hormones, women get much more sensitive, easy to get stressed out, depressed and go through a lot of emotional ups and downs.
So, if just a little bad thing happens, it can turn into the most worst, miserable thing to you if you're in the time.
When I first heard about this, I didn't like to admit that the hormones affect me and my life that much but after I went through some hard time while I was in the time, I couldn't accept that there is huge difference between when I am under the time. If you're such a sensitive person like me, chances are the difference will be clearer and stronger.

the period tells you your monthly mood swings and energy levels. ^^
you can check out the book "28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals About Your Love Life, Moods, And Potential" by Gabrielle Lichterman.

I've been also doing EFT, Ho'oponopono, the work and read quite lots of spiritual books. but I think whatever you do regulrarly is the best and try to think 'it can happen' or 'He or she can say that' instead of 'why is it happening to me'.

I'm a also beginner and struggle a lot sometimes :) Hope it helps.
Comment by Patty Jarrell on July 21, 2010 at 9:38pm
Hi Diana,
Everyone had great suggestions. Here's something that I have been doing just to stay focused and in the NOW. I bought a bracelet, karma beads, they are on elastic, so when I start feeling blah, or not so nice I snap them...kind of like a rubber band, to remind me to 'snap' back! Also, I have put items around my house art, candles, pictures, that remind me of how lucky I am right now and to appreciate what I have. Hope all works out for you!
Comment by Diana Marchand on July 21, 2010 at 2:18pm
THanks so much everyone for the tips! REally appreciate it.
Comment by Kelly Martin on July 21, 2010 at 1:11pm
Hi Diana, I tried many many techniques to 'sort my emotions out' (NLP,EFT, BYRON KATIE, Journey work by Brandon Bays etc etc...) it is not until recently, as of this week I began watching Mooji on you tube and discovered no amount of mental fixing, or changing, or techniques worked. The very emotions I was struggling with, resisting, fighting against were receiving more energy from me which perpetuated and increased the intensity of those emotions. It wasnt until I realised all along I have the tools to allow balance in. Those tools are simply my welcoming those feelings to be. Welcome sadness, welcome anger, welcome stress. It was only my fighting them, wanting them to be different than they were that has caused a lifetime of stress. When I started over a week ago to step back and asked myself "who is feeling this "emotion"?" "Who is witnessing this feeling?" without the need for an answer, no answers come. Sitting with this simple question, allowing the question to bring the relief. Mooji explains it more, just type in Mooji into you tube, lots of videos to absorb. Much love x
Comment by Love Life on July 21, 2010 at 1:05pm
Wow Imp, you had said everything I also wanted to say & more!!

Diana, hope you find some peace within yourself, and believe that you can do anything!!
Comment by Imp on July 21, 2010 at 12:59pm
Hmm... what I'm reading is that you believe your emotional blocks are so strong that they are preventing you from moving forward. In other words, you are doubting yourself and your own self-worth/value.

Have you read 'The Secret'? It may be time for a re-read - or a first read if you haven't. I find when I get into a negative space, that it really helps to re-read it and puts things into perspective.

When we focus on what we don't want, that is what we attract more of - as we get our results where we focus our energy. And yes, I think everyone goes through this "I'm stuck" at some point, as your past beliefs are being shattered and changed - which can manifest itself in physical issues. One book I have found more than helpful with regards to beliefs is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. They are simply agreements one makes with oneself - but his explanation of our belief system makes a lot of sense.

And that is what you are dealing with - is you are questioning your belief system, and while you remain in the negative of 'not having enough' - your belief of perhaps not deserving it (I'm not sure what your belief here is), is being validated.

I would encourage you to write down what you DO want. What you CAN attain. And what your dream is - picture how you see yourself, doing what you love with an abundance of income.

I'd also encourage you to figure out what/who triggered these doubts? Has something happened in the last two days that fed into an old belief? Are you around people that dismiss your ideas as being not valid? Has someone said something that touched an old wound?

I think we all go through these periods of doubt while on our way to our own greatness. In attaining our own greatness, we have to believe in ourselves, first and foremost. Are you like many and have a fear of success and a fear of failure? But also an expectation of failure because success is foreign? And if you attain success, then people that have been your peers have been wrong?

Diana, I do not believe you are 'stuck' as you think you are. Take a deep breath, envision your success - envision what it looks like and what it feels like. Envision exactly what you want - and it will manifest itself. Envision yourself controlling your emotions - not them controlling you. Envision the Diana you know yourself to be. Envision how powerful you are to be able to change your thoughts and emotions.

Earlier this year I had a similar crisis, in which I thought returning to counseling was warranted. A friend asked me what benefit it would be to go back and bring up all the old stuff again. I realized there was no benefit to it at all. I'd done it. I needed to focus on the now and the future and what I want it to look like.

It sounds simply that you are doubting yourself and your goals. Focus on today - on feeling good today and manifesting the income you want to achieve, just for today. You seem overwhelmed, and I think by breaking it down into a smaller picture - it will not seem so unattainable. You know the old saying... 'how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time'

For today, just take a bite. (smile) Hope this helps.
Comment by Love Life on July 21, 2010 at 12:48pm
Hi Diana,

I'm not sure what some of those methods you used are, and it might be similar to what I am about to suggest.
Here is what helps me:

1) meditation
2) using your breath to calm you down (if you are at work).......simply by breathing differently
3) saying affirmations
4) journal: write out your worries, and hand them over to the Universe to take care of

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