The 100 Day Reality Challenge

I'm on day 5 season 1. I feel like I'm already failing. I don't like using that word and I'm trying to stay positive but I'm feeling so tiered and sad. I'm writting in my gratitude journal every day I'm trying to meditate more offten and I've been doing EFT more often. But I don't feel any different. I'm going through a very difficult brake-up and I don't know how to gain controle. We've been together for 6 years and I know he's the one I want to spend my life with and I know what I need to do but can't seem to put it into practice.

Does anyone have tips on how to change my negative thoughts to positive?

thoughts like:

Why me?

What did I do wrong?

What do I need to do to have him back?

Was I not good enough?

Was I a bad girlfriend?

I don't mean to be so negative I just want to feel better and need help

Thank you for your support

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Comment by Leigh van der Walt on November 26, 2010 at 6:54am
Hello Michele

Leo Buscaglia writes " If you give yourself totally to another, you'll be lost forever. Maintain yourself as they maintain themselves. then put "they" together and form "Us." then work on that "U" and that "Us" gets bigger and bigger, as "You" and "I" get bigger we form these enormous concentric circles that grow forever. intimacy is that wonderful "Us". And if, by chance you lose that special "Us"- you still have an "I" .

You've got to keep growing and bringing in the newness every day. your main responsibility is to yourself, because if you dont feel that way, you cant bring anything to anybody eles. You can only bring what you have. get in touch with all of who you are and all of your beautiful unique greatness!
Comment by David on November 20, 2010 at 10:22am
I know this is a month later but I thought I would put my two cents in.

"Does anyone have tips on how to change my negative thoughts to positive?"

All I can say is how I did it. I refused to speak negative even if I was feeling it. I kept telling myself I felt good, every single day of my life.... did I feel that way....no.... but I kept saying it.... and as the law of our being works.... the without WILL match the within.... I kept claiming it and claiming it and cliaming it.... and here I am FEELING great.

I HAD TO stop looking outside of myself and just cliam how GOOD I felt because I KNOW that the without has to match my beliefs once they become truth to me.... and they became truth to me BECAUSE I kept cliaming it and for NO OTHER REASON.

Don't worry about how you feel (I know that is easier said then done) but just KEEP claiming how great you feel and YOU WILL FEEL what you claim in time....

You're on the right site as you can see by the responses you got.
Comment by Jennie on October 13, 2010 at 2:04pm
Yes, yes, yes to everything all of these beautiful women have said...additionally, here is part one of ten of Louise Hay's movie--"You Can Heal Your Life", all ten parts are there on youtube. Best to you beautiful Michele!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JxKUAjsxSk8
Comment by Tabitha Hobbins on October 13, 2010 at 1:13pm
PS: Louise Hay's book "You can heal your life" has been a HUGE benefit to me in this area! Get the gorgeous illustrated gift-book version if you can!
Comment by Tabitha Hobbins on October 13, 2010 at 1:12pm
Yes, absolutely what Jilly said...and this from God/Neale Donald Walsch "Need NOTHING, desire EVERYTHING, choose what shows up!" The more we think we NEED others (especially men!) the more we push them away. You do not NEED to get married. You do however, need (if you want to be truly happy and joyous) to FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF!! Romance yourself, need him less, it's a LOT of pressure to be needed by someone, believe me, I know! ..then you can simply be with your partner with an energy/spirit of "I am a beautiful Goddess in human form, and any man would be lucky to have me!"
Blessings and may you have all the love in the world, starting with your own :-)
Comment by Jill on October 13, 2010 at 12:36pm
Hi Michele, First I would like to say that if you are positive he is the right partner, rest assure that the Universe will bring him back into you life. This is the way of the Universe and there is nothing you or I can do about it. That being said "you have no other reason to be negitive about the outcome". If you have missed the mark about him being the ONE, then rest assured that the ONE is still out there and you have not met him yet and you can thank your luck stars/Universe/God/Source. Forget all this rubbish about ,"am I good enough" and go about your business and trust that the Universe knows what its doing. It looks to me (from what you are saying) is that you need to get right with yourself before you can connect with him. How can you expect him to connect with someone that thinks she is not good enough,and that is a bad girlfriend. Try to hear yourself telling him these things you have just told us. Maybe if you start thinking better of yourself, he will see that person also and consider the "partner for life" thing. Right "NOW" you are giving off the vibration of "I'm not a good girlfriend,not good enough".
Let me just tell you that if I were with a boyfriend that gave off the same vibrations you are, I wouldn't marry them. This is a hugh commitment and you are asking him to marry someone that thinks she is not a good enough girlfriend. Hmmm?
I'm commenting on this with compasion and a happy heart. Blessings to you, J
Comment by Michele on October 13, 2010 at 12:04am
Thank you for your support girls. I guess I forgot to mention that we still see each other almost every night he tells me he loves me more then I will ever know, it's like we are a magnet to each other. The reason he broke up with me is because I want to get married and he doesn't feel ready right now. Any ideas of what mind set I should be in when I see him?
Comment by Tabitha Hobbins on October 12, 2010 at 11:48pm
Dear sweet Michele,
This comes straight from a book by an author local to me called Guy Finley.
'Instead of asking yourself, "Why me?", learn to ask "What is it inside of me that has attracted this painful situation?"
The answer, lovely lady is in your very own words. You are asking many questions that indicate a lack of self-worth. Glory is oh so right when she says you need to fall in love with yourself! You really need to be the kind of person that he couldn't stand to let go of because you inspire him so much. ...and if you already ARE that person, and he STILL wants to let you go, then the issue is his, not yours. Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? You deserve better than that, honey! Think of the person you admire most in this world. Your personal hero. The one person that you want to be most like. Would he or she want to be with someone who has rejected them? Probably not.....so, why would you? Keep your chin up, M, discover how beautiful and gorgeous and amazing you REALLY are, and others will have no choice by to fall in love with you too! Just like Lisa Whats-her-face said on The Secret. Take your focus OFF what you think you may have done wrong, and put it ON the amazing, unique qualities you have that no-one (no matter how under their spell you might be!) can EVER take away from you! Write a list of your good qualities right now! I'll start for you:
1) I, Michele and extremely attractive and photogenic
2) I have the courage to ask for help when I have challenges
3) I am smart enough to know that the secret to true happiness lies in my very own thoughts
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Love, Tabitha :-)

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