The 100 Day Reality Challenge

S3 - Still D18 Beyond every stumble is a positive leap forward...I hope;)

So I wrote a horrible post this morning, I was so angry I feel terrible thinking about it, so I won't. I've chatted w/my ex and realize how he has nothing to do with me. Only I control my thinking. He can treat me only as I allow him to and I control my reaction to everything, which then creates my reality. I actually feel badly about begrudging him happiness. He can't have felt good treating people badly and if he's able to change and move forward, good for him. I'm going to do the same. I am going to let go of my anger and forgive him. When his new chick arrives I will welcome her into the fold. It must be difficult moving into such a tight knit group knowing that I'm the ex and I'm pretty beloved here.

I am also going to focus on the positives of my life. I've been invited to Nepal next month to travel w/a sweet, handsome german boy that I met in February, but didn't consider bc I was so wrapped up in my former situation. He's persisted for seven months and is willing to fly to Asia to see me, that's not a small thing. Also, in thinking what I want in a life partner I decided that whomever I end up with needs to be as wonderful as my sweet kiwi ex. Our parting ways is what brought me to ccor three years ago and I never stopped loving him. At the beginning of the month I realized I have nothing to lose so I emailed him to see how he is doing. I have horrible confidence at the moment and didn't expect a response, but then a few days later?? He wrote back and we chatted back and forth about our lives. Nothing too serious but it felt wonderful none the less. These are the things I want to focus my attention on. Yes, I didn't get what I thought I wanted out of this recent relationship, but I did learn about what I don't want in my life. I've clearly identified behavior that I'm not willing to accept going forward and I appreciate the men in my life that have genuinely cared for me. 

I am so very grateful for the opportunity to see my thoughts written down. Gives them a weight that I don't realize when they're racing through my veins, affecting my everything. This perspective is the greatest opportunity to grow and be who I know I'm meant to be. 

Much love and light and thanks to all, mwah!

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Comment by Anna on September 22, 2012 at 7:03am

Great!!!Let´s do it! We coach each other!!! Everything will be PERFECT! ´Cause we deserve the best!
"30 day love-a-thon" - is a great name!

Lots of love,


Comment by Monimons on September 21, 2012 at 9:40am

Hi Anna,

I would love to join the group! I do think a lot of us are dealing with the same thing and 30 days to find real love, wouldn't that be amazing?

One thing you said that really resonates with me is that hanging out w/my deutchie will help put me in a better energy level. Even just chatting with him has raised my confidence quite a bit and the distraction has been key to getting me through some of my toughest days. 

Soo, how do we start? And what should we call the group? 30 day love-a-thon?

Thank you for your insight and support, sending you lots of love right back:)

Comment by Anna on September 21, 2012 at 8:10am

Hi Monica,

I know exactly what you mean, ´cause I try to get over a break-up myself which is not that easy! I have so many upps and downs: Some days are OK but others are a real desaster and I am just sad and devastated about the situation with my ex! But it sounds good that you will catch up and travel with a german guy - just give him a try and if its only a good distraction, this would bring you in a better energy level! You need distraction right now and not to focus too much on your ex!

We should make our own group for people dealing with love-sickness and how to overcome negative feelings of loss! What do you think? We should make our own marathon to find our soul-mate within the next 30 days or so! This is my true intent for the 100-LOA-episode: To find real love!

Are you up to this experiment? We could coach each other and give pieces of advice and maybe we will come up with a real great result - not only with the manifestation but also with great advice andhelp for people in a lovesickness-situation and how to find hope and love again!

Would someone like that idea?

All the best and lots of LOVE -



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