The 100 Day Reality Challenge

I have been missing something in my journey the past few months, something wasn't clicking with my intentions. I had forgotten that my intention is not to accumulate yet more things, not to achieve more so I can stroke my ego, not to make my life pleasing to others in order to be loved. I watched that film of Wayne Dyer's last night, and I am now re-aligned with my purpose!

I am here to be HAPPY and to SERVE!

THAT'S IT! Nothing else! In the past I have struggled with the "serving" bit, as mothers and women sometimes give of ourselves until it hurts us. Oprah says that she wakes up and asks God "How can I serve today?" And lord knows she isn't doing too badly! She's no doormat! I am starting to see that it isn't giving ourselves away, but giving THROUGH ourselves that is what brings us joy. Like the woman who loved drawing in the film, she had to take back the time for herself, so that she can give of herself better. She is giving to the world just by creating beauty, and that is hard to understand sometimes. For me anyway!!

I have also had an issue with the being HAPPY part. I have been taught that being happy meant earning the happiness, that getting or doing something would then MAKE me happy, but not until then. That sort of happiness is a goal, not a state of being. But I get it now!!! I just desire BEING happy. And if they end goal is happiness anyway, then why not just start out by being happy now??? So, I now intend to be happy, whatever is coming at me, like Wayne Dyer being cheerful when a kid squirted him with a squirtgun, he just smiled and said to the Mom "It's okay, it's water, it's soft."

I am therefore crossing out the intentions I wrote the other day and re-writing them, they felt a bit hollow and shallow, no real enthusiasm or joy in them. Funny how I thought they would make me happy by achieving them! Most of them were just goals I thought I should have! How crazy is that??? Glad I saw this film before starting the Challenge tomorrow, this lesson came right on time.

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Comment by Tamara Rasheed on January 25, 2009 at 8:10pm
Clarissa, what is the movie? This is the first I am hearing about it! What is it called? Where can I find it??

I felt just that same way, empty, without happiness, until I did that workshop with Oprah and Marcus Buckingham on taking control of your career and your life. His workshop really helped me to focus on my strengths and lessen my weaknesses, and it gave me a whole new sense of who I am. I would love a companion to that with Wayne Dyer's movie. if you haven't seen it.

I have constantly been trapped in that serving vs. obligation rut, and I just recently realized that happiness is possible (over the past two years), because I used to believe that happiness was just a pacifying emotion created out of longing to be happy. The movie Pursuit of Happyness with Will Smith really helped to shed light on happiness for me also. He asked the question "Have you ever wondered why it was called the pursuit of happiness and not obtaining happiness" or something to that effect. It was because happiness is something that you should always strive to obtain, not an end result. The happiness is in getting to where you're going! In the journey itself! That was really when I started to take charge of my abusive situation and turn it around. I wanted to pursue my happiness!

Without even seeing your post or reading these comments, I went back through all of my goals and intentions and redid them based on being happy and what I really, specifically wanted.

Comment by crystalspirit on January 17, 2009 at 7:33am
Great blog, Clarissa!! I also related to the woman who loved drawing and didn't give herself the time... The resentment she felt and the trouble with opening up was hearttouching!! Creating beauty is the new slogan!!!

xoxoxo Mascha
Comment by MerryTraveller on January 16, 2009 at 2:51am
i love this post. beautifully written clarissa...pressed the rest button in my head. xx
Comment by Stephanie on January 15, 2009 at 7:51pm
Hmm that makes a lot of sense. I need to check him out. Yes Oprah is definitely serving her purpose isn't she? Wow.
Comment by Kate on January 15, 2009 at 3:37pm
Great post, I look forward to seeing your first video or post of the challenge. My video is made but I need to edit and upload. It will be up late today. Its going to be an awesome challenge.

Comment by Zara on January 14, 2009 at 3:51pm
Hi Clarissa, glad the movie had an impact on you. I also feel that way after watching the film which is perfect timing for getting us ready for our day one tomorrow. I wish you all the best for your challenge:)
Comment by Emha on January 14, 2009 at 2:20pm
Very inspirational blog, thank you! After watching the same movie yesterday I finally had the inspiration to write down my goals and intentions for the second season.

We're both starting tomorrow, let's be happy and have fun together!


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