Sometimes I wonder why I read as much as I do, or listen to audiobooks or whatever... when true knowledge is something you only experience yourself, independently of any teaching. But then I read a commentary on the Anapanasati* Sutta. Someone else here may have issues/confusion re: meditation so this paragraph might help:
"Buddha taught us three kinds of actions while meditating or during our daily activities. They are, “Love Where We Are At, Love What We Are Doing in the Present Moment, and Love Who We Are With” . These simple explanations allow one to be completely accepting of the present moment. “To Love where We Are At” means to accept the fact that when one is sifting in meditation, things are not always like they want them to he. “To Love What We Are Doing” means to open up the mind and allow whatever arises in the present moment, to present itself without our getting attached to it. A good acronym for this is “DROPS” which means “Don’t Resist Or Push. Soften”. Whatever arises, one does not resist or push. Just soften into it, open the mind and accept it. In other words to “Love What We Are Doing” . “To Love Who We Are With” , means to love oneself enough so that they see and let go of all kinds of attachments which causes pain to arise in their body and mind. The recognition that one causes their own suffering is a major realization. When one truly loves themselves, they will see the pain and sorrow and lovingly let it go. This is done by letting go of the thinking about. Thus, they let go of the attachment and the ego identification with it.
*awareness of breath